First let me explain something. I think I’m not a normal female. I actually like to carry heavy things. In college, I once carried a small refrigerator up a couple flights of stairs by myself. A muscular male student offered to help me and I refused, even though I just about had a heart attack because that thing probably weighed almost as much as I did. I’ve been called petite, but I’m not a weakling. Since we live in New York City and we are proud to not own a car (so green!), I often carry lots of groceries for blocks and I think it’s good for me.
In my 3 prior IVF attempts, I was told not to lift anything over ten pounds after the transfer and to avoid high impact activities. I didn’t think too much about it. I pretty much went on living normally, but just a little more carefully… well, maybe not. I do recall one time when my husband actually carried my purse for me, but I know that most days I probably wasn’t quite as careful as I should have been. This is our fourth IVF. Again I was simply told to avoid lifting anything over ten pounds and to avoid high impact activities. Perhaps I am getting desperate. Perhaps I am getting wiser (I wish!). Perhaps the difference is that I have a very emphatic, persuasive acupuncturist who pleaded with me to "Rest. Rest. Rest. Don’t do any shopping. Anytime you feel tired, lie down. Don’t exercise at all because I have a patient who lost her baby when she exercised." I said I don’t exercise, but I walk and that’s okay. Then she said, "Don’t go anywhere." I know this is extreme advice and almost impossible to follow. However, I deeply respect her for some reason and I actually am trying to listen.
Since the transfer on Friday, my husband has done all the grocery shopping. He opens and closes windows for me. He transferred milk from our big gallon jug into a small, glass pitcher so I don’t have to lift the big jug. He doesn’t seem annoyed. I have a hunch he even likes being the strong one. Well, he’s always been the strong one but now he gets to prove it every day. So we’ve been weighing a few things around the house to find out what is really over ten pounds. The actual weight of some items surprises me.
9.5 inch diameter cast iron skillet: 4.5 pounds
full 2 Liter Brita water pitcher: 5 pounds
full gallon of milk: 8 pounds
stepping stool in kitchen: 13 pounds (whoops! I had been lifting this!)
Of course full laundry bags, chairs, and big fans are out of the question. I think my muscles are going to atrophy. Then I really will be a weakling! I’m starting to get used to this.